A couple of weeks ago I took my 2 year old daughter out to dinner because the thought of cooking was just too much on that particular Friday evening. Not to mention my sink was full of dishes and in order to cook I had at least an hours worth of work and preparation ahead of me. Anyway, the waitress sat us down and my back was to a couple that continually spoke of their son, Eliot. The way they were speaking, it seemed as if Eliot wasn't there except that I kept hearing the waitress refer to him.
So our dinner progressed as any does with a two year old, spilled milk, whining, shushing, reminders to sit and not poke the woman sitting behind her, answering the question why? until I might actually go crazy, and clearly, not one bite of my dinner taken while it was hot. However, among all the on-goings I couldn't help being totally distracted about the way the couple behind me spoke of their son, as a third party that wasn't involved in their dinner. To my relief, the bill came and it was time to go home.
When I stood up, I was speaking to my daughter about going home and going to bed, who at this point was becoming tired and a bit unruly and Eliot's mother said endearingly, "You speak to your daughter the way I speak to little Eliot." I smiled and nodded not really making eye contact because I was trying to wrangle a bull, I mean put her coat and hat on. However, when I did finally stand up straight to continue the conversation I was stopped dead in my tracks noticing "little" Eliot. A very big boy, at least three in a high chair with an Ipad propped in front of him, movie playing, head phones on and candy cane in hand. I tried not to look shocked and disgusted, which is difficult since my facial expressions always give away my thoughts. I quickly composed myself and managed a friendly giggle and smile. My little one also noticed the movie and tried to look at what little Eliot was watching when he let out a scream and covered his Ipad with both hands, and shot my little one a dirty look. I had no words as my daughter looked at me for an answer for this behavior.
The Ipad, an acceptable pacifier for toddlers and school aged kids?? I mean when is enough, enough? How much is Eliot missing from engaging in dialogue with his parents and his surroundings? How much do parents use technology to entertain their kids so they don't have to put up with them? Technology needs to be used with ground rules and responsibility on the parts of parents and teachers alike.
Good thing the Common Core has so much focused on speaking and listening!